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  • Writer's pictureJennifer Wreyford

Today's Tough Love: Perfect is Bullsh*t

Today’s Tough Love:




Lean in, folks. Get close.

Truth bomb, ready to explode.


Perfect isn’t a THING.

You are not, and never will be, “perfect”…unless you’re a snowflake (and if you are, and you’re reading this, I have questions). Remember that even a snowflake only maintains the state of “perfect symmetry” until the temperature reaches a certain point. Holding ourselves to impossible standards that even nature can’t sustain is, quite simply, madness.

Somewhere along the road we made unconscious key decisions that there were rules for us to be loved. We each have our own mental construct of how, and who, we have to be in order to be accepted…to be worthy of love, to be “enough”.

Perfectionism at its core is a desire for external love and validation, for other people to tell us we are “enough”, for someone else to give us approval.

“Perfect” is just fear in a prettier outfit.

It’s a fear we won’t be “enough” (and sometimes equally that we’ll be “too much”).

But you’ll never be “perfect”, because perfect doesn’t exist.

And we don’t need your “perfect”.

We need *YOUR* unique, perfectly-imperfect.

Sparkle On 💖


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