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  • Writer's pictureJennifer Wreyford

Today's Tough Love: Stop Blaming the Spoon

Stop blaming the spoon.

I have two glasses of water in front of me

One glass is completely clear.

The other glass of water has some dirt settled to the bottom of it.

If I stick a spoon in the clear glass, and stir…what happens?

Nothing. There’s nothing to be stirred up. It stays clear.

If I put that spoon in the glass with the dirt settled at the bottom, and stir…what happens?

Allllll of the dirt gets swirled up like a tornado through that glass.

That’s EXACTLY what it’s like when we’re triggered (or not).

The dirt is analogous to what’s underneath your trigger.

If there’s nothing to be stirred up in you, your “glass” is going to stay clear.

You see, it’s not the spoon (read: person, event, circumstance).

It’s the dirt in the glass.

Clean up your dirt, and you won’t get triggered.

And when you do feel triggered, you’ll see there’s something in you that needs healing.

Because when you become clear, you aren’t triggered by others.

You don’t blame others for what’s yours to own.

You don’t become embroiled in unnecessary drama or conflict.

You create more peace in your life which in turn creates more peace in the world.

When you accept responsibility for working on yourself, you take a powerful step that creates a ripple effect around you.

When you become healthier, you have a net-positive impact on everyone in your life, whether it’s a partner, family, friends, or strangers.

There is much we can’t control in this life, but what IS fully within our control is our own self-management and self-exploration.

Stop blaming the “spoon”.

See the spoon as a gift to show you what’s there to be worked on and cleared.

Own your shit, do the work, and remove your sediment.

Then you can focus on creating your unique positive impact in this world.

Let’s shift this world, one person at a time.

Sparkle on, friends…


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