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  • Writer's pictureJennifer Wreyford

Today's Tough Love: Tend to your own "knitting"

Today’s Tough Love:

How much time do you spend judging other people?

This is not a shame game. It’s an honest question.

Most of the time we don’t realize we’re even doing it.

Judging others is inherently a fear that we will be judged.

Sometimes we see things in others that we fear are a part of us (usually unconsciously) or that we don’t want to be a part of us so badly, that we reject it in others.

Sometimes judging others gives humans a feeling of significance.

It’s also a sign that we’re probably judging the sh*t out of ourselves, extremely concerned with what other people think of us.

None of those things are *excuses*.

They’re simply reasons we judge.

When you catch yourself in judgment, get curious.

Ask yourself what it is you’re really judging…if there’s something you see that’s triggering something in you.

And bring it back to you.

It is a full time job being human, and you don’t need to distract yourself by judging others.

Focus on you.

Be the best version of yourself, in any given day.

“Tend to your own knitting” and worry about your side of the fence.

You’ll feel better. And you’ll find more compassion for other humans in the process.

Have Courage and Sparkle On 💖

As a side note:

Most of what you see in the news these days comes down to people judging the ever-loving sh*t out of other people for lifestyles and choices that have NO 👏🏻IMPACT 👏🏻 AT 👏🏻 ALL 👏🏻 ON 👏🏻 THE 👏🏻 LIFE 👏🏻 OF 👏🏻 THE 👏🏻 JUDGER.

This world would be a kinder, better place if most people would get the f*ck out of other people’s business and pay attention to their own. I promise you, if you’re doing it right, you’ll be plenty busy with your own life, your own healing, your own growth, and finding your own peace.

This is not a political statement. I speak to the broad concepts that underpin being human.


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